You’ve Changed

by Alina on March 29, 2016

in Am I Good Enough?, Career Change, Decision-making, Need a Change

We change all the time. germinationThe change is often so gradual that we don’t notice it until it erupts spontaneously, like a volcano, spilling into our lives, and burning on its way everything familiar.

One morning, as you dress for work, you notice that your suit is surprisingly too small (or too large).

After months of the same workout routine, you just decide that you’ve had enough, and need a change, seemingly for no reason at all.

You get annoyed with your sister, rudely interrupting her as she retells the same version of a family story that you’ve heard from her for years, even though the story never seemed to bother you before.

You may notice that something important is missing from your relationship, even though nothing has changed for years, and you can’t quite pinpoint what that missing piece is.

Your exciting job may suddenly seem mundane and meaningless.

You suddenly realize that something is missing from your life in general, even though it seemed perfectly fine just yesterday.

Realization of this shift from acceptance to discontent can catch you off guard.

Your loved ones and your colleagues are just as puzzled by your sudden dissatisfaction:

“All this time, everything was fine. You had no problem with any of this yesterday. Why, suddenly, there’s a problem now?! What happened?!”

What happened is that you’ve changed.

You’ve been changing all along.

You just haven’t noticed it until now, like a kid, who is suddenly surprised to be able to reach the sink without a stepping stool.

You’ve changed inside, and are realizing that your external self, your environment doesn’t fit your changing essential self anymore. The sleeves are too short, the pace is too fast, the signal is too weak for the new you.

You want to make changes in your life in order to support and reflect the new you, to keep the harmony between your inner world and your environment. (Here are some ideas for where to start when you need a change.)

It takes courage to say “I have changed”, to leave behind the familiar set-up that doesn’t work for you anymore.

It is simply not sustainable to continue fitting the new you into the old environment.

Keeping the clothes of the wrong size, trying to motivate yourself at a job that doesn’t make you grow anymore, staying in a relationship that feels draining won’t make you feel content or satisfied, no matter how much time passes. Plus you will pay for this mismatch between your new you and your old environment with your declining physical and mental health.

You’ve changed.

I’ve changed as well.

As a result, I’m doing something that feels scary: I am rebranding my coaching practice to fully embrace and incorporate intuition and energy work that I’ve been doing. (You will see the results of this process shortly, but feel free to email and ask me, if you don’t want to wait!) No more separate sites for coaching and for intuition.

It’s is gut-wrenching to approach corporate and individual clients, telling them how I have changed and grown.

What if they will say “no” to the new me?

So far, Google said “yes”. Facebook said “yes”. Oracle said “yes”.

And one of my absolutely favorite new clients: a seasoned senior-level executive, an engineer by training, who said that he will only sign on for executive coaching with me if we incorporate intuition into our sessions as well.

I have changed. I am looking for reflection of the new me in the amazing clients who are embracing this change along with me.

You have changed. What do you need to change in your environment to get the support that you need?

Send me a quick email, I’d love to hear how you have changed.

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